How to terminate a difficult soul contract or lesson (without a practitioner’s help)
Our human life is a dance between Divine Will and our human Free Will. We come into this life wishing to experience a set of life lessons, soul contracts, and chosen challenges (a.k.a. opportunities for growth and transformation. 😉) This, you could say, is the Divine Will, or our soul’s plan for the incarnation. But then it’s up to our Free Will how we choose to navigate those predestined twists and turns.
In my work as a spiritual practitioner, I often guide folks to honor Divine Will through understanding and embracing their life lessons and soul contracts as much as their soul gifts and purpose. However, there are cases where trying to follow through with a soul contract can do more harm than good, and where the well-being of the human may need to take priority over their soul’s wishes…
Not so long ago, I went through an agonizing period of six months where all my efforts, no matter how good, were mysteriously blocked or sabotaged, and where everything that could possibly break did so, and more than once. It was like being inside an invisible prison, with zero control over my reality, not being allowed to do anything except breathe, sleep, and manage whatever new disaster a new day brought. None of my skills, tools, experience, self-inquiry, or attempts to do things differently were able to make a dent in this new pattern in my life. It was absolutely frustrating, heartbreaking, and nearly drove me to the edge.
For someone else, their heartbreaking reality could be due to a soul contract with another person — perhaps being stuck in an abusive karmic relationship that went very wrong and is now threatening their life, and not being able to get out of it no matter what they try.
I can think of several cases where a predestined circumstance, situation, or connection with a person over time had such a destructive effect on someone that they were at the point of giving up on life and prematurely “exiting” this reality.
You see, we human beings are strong and resilient, yet sometimes it seems that our Higher Selves can’t fully grasp what it’s like to be a human on Earth, and are overly optimistic about how much we can handle.
Yes, we should do our best to learn our lessons and fulfill our contracts for this life. And the best way to transform a negative situation is by understanding and doing what it requires from us (give up an old belief, make a new choice, etc.) Circumstances tend to transform for the better once we learn from them what we were supposed to.
However, I also believe that in extreme cases, it can be appropriate to forcibly put an end to a situation that is threatening our sanity and ability to function in the world going forward.
And we can do that by terminating or modifying the soul contract or lesson through which the situation arose.
In this context, a soul contract is any agreement the soul has taken on willingly, indirectly, or through force or deceit (yes, sometimes we can be tricked into harmful agreements that don’t serve us!) The contract then defines the “rules of engagement” between us and external reality, us and a specific area of life (money, love, achievement), or us and another person.
Spiritual practitioners can often help with severing of contracts using tools like the Akashic Records, regression, facilitating a conversation with the person’s Team in Spirit... However, you have the right and the ability to do that yourself!
⚠️ Please use extreme caution when deciding whether to terminate a soul contract or lesson!
Don’t indiscriminately drop your contracts whenever life presents even the slightest challenge or discomfort. You’ll be missing the point of this incarnation! This tool is only to be used when you’ve taken the time to understand what is required of you, have taken responsibility for your reality, have tried everything you possibly could, nothing has helped, and the situation is so dire that it’s threatening your sanity, your ability to function, and therefore your ability to fulfill the rest of your life plan.
The danger of frivolously dropping a “good” contract or lesson (one chosen by the soul) is that you won’t learn or develop something required to proceed to the next step in your evolution, or you’ll greatly alter your life plan or the life plan of another person. In this interconnected fabric of reality, our choices have a ripple effect, and you opting out of a contract can potentially wreak havoc on the reality and trajectory of people you know and those you haven’t even met.
However, I don’t think anyone would complain about dropping a negative contract that you were tricked into! :)
The process for terminating a soul contract
The process below is to inspire you and to give you all the different pieces to consider, but is in no way the only “correct” way of doing this — please use it as inspiration, and do what feels relevant and appropriate for you and your situation.
If you’re aware of details such as when the problematic contract was made, why, with who, and what it requires from you, use those specifics in the process. Here, I will describe the process in a very generic way that assumes we’re suffering from a persistent situation or pattern in our life and are strongly suspecting there’s a contract or lesson behind it, but have no knowledge of the details.
Prepare a safe and sacred space. It can be as simple as: sit down where you usually meditate or do spiritual practices, visualize a sphere of light surrounding you and the space, call in Archangel Michael or your favorite protective Beings and ask them to guard the space against all interferences, state that no negative energies or entities are allowed into your space.
Call in your Team in Spirit: your Higher Self (the guiding aspect of your soul), Spirit Guides, Angels, and whatever benevolent Beings you know and trust (ancestor spirits, star family, Archangels…) Be sure to also invite Archangel Michael, as he’ll be assisting with severing of the contract.
Take a sheet of paper, write your full name on the left side of it, and write the negative pattern you want to put an end to on the right side (“constant sabotage of all my efforts”, “thwarted efforts to leave an abusive relationship”, or whatever it is in your case). Draw a line between your name and the pattern. Soon you’ll also be writing down more details under the pattern, so leave some room there on the right side. The paper will serve as a physical representation of the contract between you and whatever is on the other end of it.
Address the Team in Spirit gathered around you. Explain to them the negative pattern or persistent situation you’re experiencing and the devastating effect it’s having on you. Explain that you’ve done everything possible to understand it, learn from it, and transform it through your own actions, and are now out of options (this all must be true, of course!) Tell them that to the best of your knowledge, it’s harming more than it’s serving you at this point, and in order for you to be able to function and proceed with your life plan, you’re making a Free Will choice to stop this pattern now.
Ask your Team to find in your Akashic Record all the karmic, familial, and energetic influences and agreements from this and other lives that contribute to the negative pattern at hand.
Take some time to contemplate and write down on the right side of the paper a comprehensive list of anything that might be causing or contributing to this negative pattern. Some of it may come from what you already know and understand, some from a general understanding of how these things work, and your Team might inspire some ideas as well. Your list might include things like:
- contracts or agreements from this and other lives, conscious and unconscious, helpful and harmful, with humans, non-humans, situations, or reality in general
- familial/genetic influences
- life lessons
- influence or sabotage by other people or non-human Beings (helpful or harmful)
- unfinished karma (completing or balancing something you started in another life; or perhaps you wished something upon another and it’s being mirrored back to you)
- your pattern of choice that needs to change
- your belief that needs to transform
and whatever else comes to mind!
If you know exactly what contract or lesson you have that needs to be taken care of, just write what the contract is without all those other possibilities (e.g. “my pre-birth agreement to absorb and transmute all the darkness and negative karma of my birth family and tolerate their abuse in the process”.)
State your Free Will choice to terminate all contracts contributing to the unwanted pattern and to learn whatever lessons there might be in a more positive way. Here’s an example of what you can say, and, of course, you would want to use your own words and make the script specific to your situation and knowledge of the specifics:
“In the presence of my Higher Self and spiritual Team, I invoke my Free Will as a sovereign incarnated human, and I make a conscious choice to sever all contracts that cause me to experience [name the negative pattern].Archangel Michael, please find and sever all soul contracts and agreements causing this pattern, that were created in this and other lives, consciously or unconsciously, intentionally or indirectly, willingly, by force, or by deceit, with myself, with reality, with any life area, with any human or non-human Being, or with any other phenomenon.If there are any negative Beings that are affecting my reality through these agreements, I ask Archangel Michael to close any portal, remove any cord or hook, and block any access those Beings have to me and my environment.I now declare myself free of these contracts and agreements.From now on, my new rule for engaging with reality/love/money/goals/etc. is […]If there is a life lesson meant for me to learn through this experience, I ask for it to be revealed to me, and I choose to learn this lesson in a more positive and easeful way, at a slower pace, or even postpone it if necessary.I choose to discard any familial or genetic contracts and influences that may be contributing to this negative pattern.I choose to complete or balance any related unfinished karma in a more positive and easeful way.If I have wished ill upon another or harmed them and am experiencing the mirroring of that in my reality, I repent my mistake. I ask for that harmful intention to be dissipated, and I ask to be freed from experiencing the effects of it in my own life.I ask to be shown the pattern of choice I need to change or the belief I need to transform, and I will work on that proactively.I am already aware of [name choice pattern, belief, or lesson you notice that may be related], I take responsibility for it, I am working proactively to transform/learn it and I commit to continuing my work on that.Through my Free Will choice, the [negative pattern in my life] stops NOW, at this moment.Please record these changes in my Akashic Record and clear all remnants of the negative pattern that I’m leaving behind from my body and energy field.So be it, and so it is.”Now take that paper, cross out the line between you and the contracts etc., and tear the paper in half: your name on one half and all the “baggage” you’ve just dropped on the other. You can tear it into pieces or safely burn it, or dispose of it in any way that feels good.
Take a few moments to integrate the experience, perhaps feel the movement of energy around you, or you can even visualize cutting those cords and agreements and pushing all those old energies out of your auric field — whatever intuitively feels right.
When you feel complete, thank your Team, ask all the Beings to return to where they belong, and close the session.
⚠️ Important:
From the moment you complete this process, you’ll have to be very mindful of your belief or attitude towards what just happened. You must believe wholeheartedly that you in fact had the right and ability to sever those contracts, that your reality obeys your Free Will and nothing can override it, and that from now on, your “rules of engagement” with reality are different — they no longer include nor allow for that negative pattern.
If you doubt it even a bit, if you’re waiting for someone else to confirm that “it worked”, if you’re looking for proof that it was real, you’re negating and undoing the whole thing. Why? Because this communicates to the Universe that you doubt whether you’re a sovereign being endowed with Free Will, and that there’s some other “authority” that gets to override your will and decide whether what you just did takes effect or not. Since reality is built according to your beliefs, that’s what will be reflected back to you (the reality won’t take your severing of the contracts seriously). Don’t sabotage your efforts with your doubt!
While I haven’t seen this in practice, I allow the possibility that in some very rare cases, a soul would refuse to let go of a contract if doing so would do extreme harm to the soul or the person. Usually though, we have many opportunities to learn the same lesson, so I hope this scenario is only a hypothetical possibility.
…So what happened to my six months of daily disasters that blocked and sabotaged all my efforts? The pattern stopped immediately after I completed the process above, and my reality went back to how it used to be — logical and generally supportive of my efforts. It took 20 minutes to put an end to six months of despair!
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I sincerely hope nobody ever needs this article. 😅 But if you are in a place where you’re desperate after honestly trying everything you could to transform your circumstances, I hope it helps make your reality more manageable.
And if you’ve used this and it helped you, please come back and share in the comments — I would love to hear your story! 💜
More to read:
An earlier blog post about soul contracts — what they are, how we make them, what types exist.
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